Give the emotion you wish to receive

Paul 'Stalkie' Stalker — Wed, 01 Jun 2011 16:52:29 +0000

Often when I used to get home from a long week at work I’d be welcomed by the sight of my two teenage offspring – one glued to the X-Box being a ‘zombie killing, drunken, Russian soldier’ and the other with a mobile phone grafted to her hand texting the friends she’d left just moments previously. I’d stand there and think if only they felt as strongly about or spent as much time on…their homework / tidying their rooms / helping their Mum / walking the dog / ……… (you fill in the gap). Coupled with their hormonal moodiness, the combination wasn’t what I’d call the most pleasant of greetings!

And I would try to confront such situations with force, I fell into the ‘do it or else’ trap.

But over the last month I’ve decided to use a different strategy. I’ve gone down the ‘let’s really support them through their rocky times and give them unconditional love, even when the going gets tough’ route! The results? Well they’re amazing. The strategy is paying massive dividends. Instead of receiving grunts in response to a question, they are now engaging in conversation. Sometimes the words are accompanied by a hug and even the wish for me to ‘have a good day’. It’s all been rather surprising.

My conclusion? In your relationships with children, or any other age group for that matter, genuinely try to be nice. Give the emotion you wish to receive. When you really find it hard, don’t allow any rash thoughts to come spilling out, count to three and take yourself to a higher level. There are incredible dividends to be had and life really does become a whole lot more tickety boo!

A Resolution Revolution!

Paul 'Stalkie' Stalker — Tue, 18 Jan 2011 15:45:57 +0000

So we’re a two weeks and a bit into the year. How are you doing on your New Year Resolution? Moreover – why did you make one (or ten)? Was there a huge change in your life, like a Lottery Win or a divorce. More than likely your answer is ‘no’. January 1^st is just another day – just like the day before and the day before that…

Look at what you have done previously – when you’ve gone on a diet or left a job. The reason? Because you have hit a threshold, probably your pain threshold. You couldn’t take the boredom, the boss, the pay any more so you jacked it all in. Perhaps you hit a threshold towards the end of December – you ate and drunk soooo much you felt bloated, slow, lifeless and pasty! Perhaps spending all week with the other half made you realize that you really aren’t right for each other any more and it’s time to move on!

Now, let’s not look at your ‘New Year Resolution’ as just that any more. You’ve just decided you are better than this and now is as good a time as any to change circumstances and, ergo, your destiny.

Forget the short term pleasure of a bar of chocolate, the pint of beer, the comfy sofa and an episode of Corrie (I know it’s hard) and think about the long term pain of those extra pounds that eating in excess and not exercising will bring about.

Maybe it’s not food that’s your Achilles heel – where in your life do you deserve better or are worth more?

So what if it’s January 18th or August 8th – you can change your future any time. We at the Extra Mile Partnership have a brilliant event coming up in January on the 28/29^th it will be a life changing event

Claim back your birthright tolead an outstanding life. Book by ringing us on 0870 444 1775 or go on-line www.theextramilepartnership.com

Love the day because we are not going to get it back.

Stalkie

Thoughts from the Stalkmeister

Give the emotion you wish to receive

A Resolution Revolution!